Update!

This was taken in 1991 in Long Beach, CA. A young married couple (Melonie and Richard) was looking for a bi chick to play with. Melonie hadn't been with a girl before and wanted to try it. I answered the ad and told them I might be that chick. Like with Tom and Melissa, we met for dinner and decided to pursue some fun.

We arranged to meet at a beach house they rented on the following Friday night. I drove to Long Beach, got there, and they let me in. I couldn't believe what they did. They had dinner ready, flowers all over the place, soft music, and dimmed lights. The windows were open and catching the breeze off the ocean. These two did everything they could think of to set the mood and put me at ease (although by this time, I was already very sexually experienced).

I had a blast and they did, as well. I paid for nothing and was treated to a couple of great dinners, some fine wine, and two days in a fantastic beach house with two attractive, wonderful people. I was treated like royalty and they acted like I was doing them a favor. In truth, they're the ones who went out of their way for me. Sex is sooooo much better with people you like.

I only saw them that one weekend as not long after, Melony found out she was pregnant. They felt that they wanted their kid to have traditional parents (i.e. non-swingers). I think they made the right decision. Had we had kids, we would've done the same.

They were really nice and respectful and were very good about using condoms and other safe sex practices. They only took a few non x-rated pics and sent me copies--and a bouquet of roses, which I really thought was sweet. This was my absolute favorite. They did contact me one more time to let me know that Melonie had a healthy baby girl (I had asked them to let me know).

That kid was lucky. She has some really cool parents. But I bet she's known that for awhile.

Yeah, I've been making changes. I actually changed this template a couple weeks or so ago, but have just gotten around to writing up an entry on it.

Bad me! Spank me! Harder! Fucking harder! LOL I better stop. Hubby saw that and asked where the ping pong paddles were (turn them upside down and we'll talk, honey!).

So why the dramatic change?

Well, first off, I wanted to do it now. I'm getting a bit more savvy with the widgets and all that go into these blogs and I figured I might as well do it before I added a bunch of things. I did add a bunch of pics the other day, but I hadn't done too many other things.

As for the template, I really liked what I was using. It's called "Gradient Red" and I did originally choose it because red is my rave-fave color. But there were some issues I had trouble with.

First off, I wanted to add a "Recent Comments" section. But when I added it under the last template, the names of the commenters were showing up in black (right where the template starts transitioning to black) and couldn't be seen. I wasn't able to change that.

I couldn't change the font or color of the blog title. And I couldn't change the font or color on the headings on the pictures, either.

Also, that template really had a heavy type of feel to it. I wanted something a little cleaner and easier on the eyes. I think this template does that. I can add red to several areas as well.

My only complaint is regarding the columns. I'd prefer it if I could have the main blog entry column in the middle. But that's no biggie. I'm already getting used to this new format.

Oh, a new pic on "About Me". Okay, this takes a little explaining.

Was showing beloved the new layout and asked his opinion on what pic I should use. I like the one of me in the black dress, but thought I'd get his take on it. So we're looking through the pics and he chose one.

Anyway, a couple of months ago we were kicking back one Saturday afternoon (we were all alone that weekend), and I was hungry. And I wanted something from S'Barros. I wanted some Italian food...but didn't want to go to a sit-down restaurant. I was in full instant gratification mode, I guess.

So hubby took me down to the North Point Mall. And I got some spaghetti and he got some pizza. Afterward, I wanted to run to Bath & Body Works. And on the way, he took out this camera and the wanna-be Playboy photographer took my pic.

I'm pretty much like a trained seal in this regard. He's taken so many of me over the years that whenever he grabs his camera, I just pose. You should see me balance a beach ball on my nose and slap my flippers together.

Anyway, he loved the pic the second he took it. I didn't give it a second thought till he brought it up.

"This one's in my all-time top ten Lexie pics," he responded.
"Why?" I asked. I'm a girly-girl (I mean, non-sexually). I'm all about the makeup, different hairstyles, clothes, all that. I figured that me in some old sweats wasn't anything special.

"No make up, no dressing up, no nothing. Just you in some old clothes. And you're still gorgeous."

Wow. What girl doesn't like hearing THAT from her hubby?

Now it's in MY all-time top ten Lexie pics too. In fact, it just might be THE top. Did I ever mention that I really love my hubby? LOL

The Mitzie Project is still going strong, with a new wrinkle.

Mitzie became romantically involved with a sweetheart of a girl named Kellie before she moved in with us. Originally, they both considered it some fun and that was it.

Of course, it wasn't.

They kept in touch and Mitzie would have Kellie over to spend the weekend with her and would go over herself. They couldn't let go of each other. So finally, after exchanging the "I love you's", they decided that they belonged together.

Wow. Both are so young. Mitzie's 22 and Kellie's 19. But....so what? When you fall in love, you fall in love.

So Mitzie approached me about the possibility of Kellie moving in with her. Hubby and I were fine with this. Kellie hadn't--and still hasn't--played with us or the group, but we had met her several times. She was nice, sweet, respectful and funny.

And here's where I went from crazy bi chick to mother hen.

I told Mitzie that it was fine, but that meant she had to give something up for a bit. That something was playtime with me and hubby, as well as Lori and Shelly. No pickups, online or offline. Just Mitzie and Kellie.

She was a bit mystified. "Why? Kellie's cool with playing."

Sigh.

I explained to her that if they were indeed serious about being in a committed, but open, relationship, they could handle two months of monogamy. Hubby and I did it. And had we needed more time, we would've taken it. There are enough hurdles to clear when you start out with someone special without throwing in a dynamic like multiple sex partners and group sex. There are couples who've been together years who've tried it and almost lost each other.

It's one thing to do this type of thing when you're single. But when you're part of a couple, it can be tough watching the one you love getting busy with another person. That takes a little bit of a tough skin. You have to be ready for it.

Our plan was never to bring Mitzie over as a play toy. I mean, we love her. We wanted her to get a good start in her adult life, and this new job and our--their--garage apartment will do that. We value this girl for who she is, not just for sex, and we need her to understand that. There are lots of girls we've valued strictly for sex, don't get me wrong, but not Mitzie. And since Kellie's important to her, Kellie's important to us.

We're fine with the girls socializing with us, eating dinner, visiting and all that. But we want them to use this "alone time" to help stabilize and solidify their relationship. If in two months they feel like they want the wild fun, then they are more than welcome to join in. If not, that's fine with us as well.

If they want more time, they can take it. That apartment is theirs as long as they want it. We want these two to know that we love them for the right reasons, and that's not their bodies (though we certainly appreciate those as well, LOL).

Of course, the two are starting to lobby for a reduction in what they refer to as their "exile". Maybe they'll get it. But the two girls have to listen to me; I'm 38, and have been doing this a long time. I know the ups and downs and highs and lows of this type of lifestyle. It's not all about getting off. It's tricky stuff. People can get hurt.

Luckily, another "veteran", Lori, is behind me on this (although I prefer her on top of me) as is hubby (whom I also prefer on top, although I do enjoy a good ride on his hard cock as well) and our resident superhero, Shelly. And my darling Janey, whom I haven't written about yet, also backed me.

But aside from the half-hearted lobbying, they have agreed to the terms and conditions. They're sweethearts. They know why we're doing this. Nothing would make me happier than seeing these two women together in ten years, in their own house, living the lifestyle of their choice, be it monogamous or not.

Actions have consequences. And the action that will have the best consequences for these two lovebirds will be to take a step back and devote as much time and love to each other as possible. The fun can come later.

That's how hubby and I did it. I hated going two or so months without a woman. It's the longest I've ever gone without a girl, but I did it, and I would've done it longer had we felt the need. It worked for us, and it'll work for them.

Anyhoo, I hope you like the new layout!